A Review Of the AudioTape Series

RECOVERY: THE PEACE THAT HEALS

CFIDS Chronicle: Winter 1999

Tom Oates is a fortunate person - in that he has come out on the other side of CFIDS, considerably recovered, having learned a great deal about himself in the process. Fortunately for us, he is articulate enough to share his insights, in an audio tape set that can be helpful to those willing to consciously engage in their own healing process.

Because that process is different for each of us, as he concedes, the tape is basically a guide for changing our attitudes about the process. He makes an important distinction between two paradigms of healing: the Magic Bullet that brings an external cure vs. a holistic approach that focuses on finding a new balance and healing into a new pattern of living.

He speaks of letting go of the struggle to get well and instead relaxing into the cultivation of peace, which can promote an alignment with healing. Stressing that his steps are not a recipe for a cure, he views them as a resource to help people discover their own healing path and their own steps.

The tapes are engaging because he begins with stories of his own life before CFIDS, describes his onset of illness in 1989 and eight stages of his recovery, interspersing his insights with actual experiences in his life. He chooses interesting metaphors and stories to illustrate his insights and includes pithy quotes from sources such as Jon Kabat-Zinn, Lao Tsu, Thich Nhat Hanh and Albert Einstein.

Overall, his insights on going within and opening up one's own healing process are right on, as many of us have discovered. While inspirational and spiritual in nature, they are not shallow optimism or heady theories. They are grounded in his own experience and thoughtful reflection.

Most of his suggestions would be universally helpful. Some of his specific strategies may not be useful to all. He advocates disconnecting from mass _ media for a time, particularly TV, which he sees as reinforcing toxic fears and attitudes. That, however, is a personal choice (although recent newscasts certainly validate it!), as some people may be helped by quality programming.

Of special interest to me were the dreams he recounts to illuminate how we can use our dreams for guidance and inspiration. Some are quite humorous and delightful! T too have found my dreams helpful, but I did find it necessary to attend dream workshops and work with a therapist before I could do that on my own. Most people need help in interpreting their dreams. However, his examples are good ones, and provide a small window into that skill.

Oates is the artist/producer of a beautiful film, "Cloud People" (reviews in the Summer 1995 Chronicle). This time his tool is his own voice sharing his journey. As with his film, the listener is drawn into his journey and can emerge with a real sense of hope and some tools to realize that hope.

The tape set includes four tapes totaling 240 minutes. Each tape is 60 minutes, with 25-30 minutes on each side. Perhaps the most valuable approach would be to listen to small portions (1 tape or 1 side of a tape at a time3, digesting the insights and choosing whether or not to implement one at a time.

Oates states that they would be most useful to people who have been ill for at least two years and know the frustration of dealing with relapses. My own assessment is that the first two tapes would be appropriate for people newly diagnosed, who are wondering where to turn for help. These are the tapes I wish I had had in the second year of my illness when I was so discouraged by a terrible relapse. The third tape, which presents suggestions for reducing relapses, and the fourth tape, which presents twelve steps for staying on the healing path, are good reminders to those of us who are long term veterans dealing mostly with occasional relapses. Whether these insights are new to us - or reminders of a process we tend to forget when stressed out, they can help to get us back on track.

The tapes could also be used by support groups to listen to portions and discuss afterward. Differences of opinion would certainly emerge, and much could be gained from discussion. Overall, an encouraging voice for all persons with CFIDS to help us tap into inner resources that ultimately effect our healing journey.

The set of 4 tapes can be ordered from Sacred Earth Productions by calling toll free 1-877-835-0838.

–Shirley Kiefer

Shirley Kiefer is a former librarian and currently a support group leader in Connecticut.

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